If you want to understand my animosity towards what feminism has become, the solution is simple. Search the feminism tag. Google image search “I need feminism because”. Look at all the self entitled bullshit that society managed to vomit onto the internet. Or, if you want to cut to the chase, here’s some.
I hate feminism because of what it has become, and what it has become is something you can’t honestly deny. Feminism used to be about getting women the right to vote, getting women rights and freedoms that men had, yet they socially and legally lacked. Today, feminism is about whining about song lyrics, or videogames, or flaunting repeatedly disproven “77 cents on the dollar” claims, or demanding free birth control (for women only, of course), and that’s just the tame stuff.
You say that’s not what feminism is supposed to be? I agree. But that’s what it is today. You waste your time trying to fight against the tide of spoiled, self-entitled, man-hating harpies who think the world should be handed to them on a silver vibrator. Feminism is dead. Equal rights activism has taken its place. Save yourself a lot of headaches and just accept it.
Some words are just beyond repair. The swastika is supposed to mean good luck. Fag is supposed to mean a bundle of sticks. At a certain point, you need to accept the fact that a word has been corrupted beyond repair, and if you want to convey the meaning that word USED to give, you need to pick another one.
For every feminist you hear talking about fighting for the right of women in Saudi Arabia to drive, you get ten “feminists” saying we should abolish Father’s Day because men don’t deserve it. For every feminist you hear talking about how 40% of domestic violence victims are men and we shouldn’t be ignoring that, you get ten “feminists” screaming WONDER WOMAN STILL HAS BIG BOOBS OMG PATRIARCHY #YESALLMEN.
In all honesty, what is your motivation for so desperately clinging to a word? Because that’s all this discussion between you and I seems to be about. We both support equal rights, we both oppose social and legal inequality between genders and everything else. But where I am happy to just call myself an equal rights supporter and leave “feminism” to the shrieking harpies of tumblr, you desperately want to reclaim the word and call yourself a feminist. Why? The word is gone. Devote your effort to fighting for its ideals, not fighting for it.